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ii_k3k3_ii
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 Posted: Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:46 am Post subject: WHAT THE HELL!!!????????!!! HATE FRIENDS |
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| Well.....My friend and her boyfriend broke up.....and well they got into a fight cursing at each other at recess at school. And well my friend told me not to talk to him, so I tried it for 2 days and well now he is calling me a fake. So I wrote my friend a letter (I didnt say it in person because the first sentence I say she'll say dont talk to me) but anyways I wrote her a letter saying how I still wanted to talk to him, and well I said its better that I'm being a good friend by being honest by not going behind her back talking to him (cause I asked if its ok to talk to him) and well we were in the Guidance office and so when she was done reading it we hugged and she said yes. But everytime we get into a fight and then recover again thats the only special moment we have, cause then she starts to not really talk to me and starts to be rude again and whatever. And I hate when she does that its like she doesnt care, she says I'm her best friend but yet she plans things to hang out or whatever with other friends and never asks me to go naywhere then when I say I'm going to the movies with a group of ppl...shes like dont talk to me, like what kind of sence does that make.....I need Help
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chrisjackson911
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| Posted: Fri Nov 06, 2009 9:02 pm Post subject: |
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| well in this case you dont have many choices. im all about recoving friendships but i cant find the positive in this situation. i think you better off letting it take you where ever it wants. just go with the flow and if the friendship is ment to be then she wont go anywhere and if it wasent then you will see her drifting away and at that point dont try to grab for her. leave her to decide what she wants to do with her life.
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candygirl9828
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| Posted: Sat Feb 13, 2010 6:09 pm Post subject: |
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| This same thing happens to me all the time. Well it happened. Just tell her what you feel.. ask her if this is true friendship or not. Let her feel what you feel. She will stay your friend if she understands. If she doesnt... Well im sorry but SCREW HER.
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Mac55
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| Posted: Tue Mar 16, 2010 12:48 am Post subject: |
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ii_k3k3_ii..........It sounds like you have a very dramatic up and down friendship! I think your friend needs alot of attention and knows who she can go to and get it. YOU!
Unfortunately, this doesn't sound like an emotionally healthy place for you to be. You were very mature and thoughtful to be honest with your friend. Your friend should not put you in the middle of her problems by telling you you cannot talk to her ex-boyfriend. I don't think your friend is considering your feelings.
I feel you should let this friendship go. People should form friendships that ADD to their lives. Not take away. Why would you want to purposely choose someone to give you problems and make your days uncomfortable? This will drain you and steal your joy. You sound smart. You sound like a younger version of myself to me. Perhaps it's time to move on. There's another girl out there that will be a blast to hang out with!
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chrisjackson911
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| Posted: Sun Mar 21, 2010 6:51 am Post subject: |
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| You only have one life. Have fun with it. So dont be with negaitive friends. Be with only postitive people. Life is short and you need to have fun and stay positive!
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MayC
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She must have such a strong influence on you if she could tell you who you can talk to and who you cannot talk to.
I agree with mac and chris. It's time to find other friends who respect you and who won't make you feel pressured or left out.
If you stop allowing her this control over you, she may step back and think, "Hey, maybe I can't do that to her after all and I must treat her right".
In any case, remember that you are in charge of you, no one else.
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chrisjackson911
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| Posted: Mon Mar 22, 2010 10:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, also remember you make the choices in your life. No one else can affect your life unless you let them.
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